Emotional Firewalls

Emotional Firewalls


Most of us are familiar with the term but may not know what a firewall actually does.

Webster defines firewall as “a wall constructed to prevent the spread of fire.”

Firefighters build back fires to halt destructive firestorms. Homeowners install security systems to keep burglars at bay. Sand bags walls prevent Hurricane waters from flooding homes. Immunizations are firewalls to deter disease from our bodies.

Computer firewalls keep out stuff you don’t want in your system. Things like hardware, software, adware, malware, ransomware, whatever “ware” give me a headache!  I am not very “tech savvy”. If I were asked to set up a computer firewall, I would probably set the computer on fire! Probably a good thing that I am a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

Cyber viruses (sounds serious doesn’t it!), unsolicited advertising, unwanted human contacts constantly invade our personal space. Firewalls like Norton, McAfee, SimpliSafe, Ad blockers, pornography blockers, Facebook blockers, LifeLock etc. provide some measure of protection from outside forces that interfere with our daily life. 

Basically, a firewall prevents an intruder from intruding your space. You and I guard our homes, computers, business, churches, and property. Sensible, smart security minded people guard their stuff.

But what about guarding our hearts? Especially emotionally.

The wisdom writer Solomon instructs us “Watch over, guard, protect your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” (Proverbs 4:23). In today’s vernacular maybe he would advise us to guard our hearts by installing firewalls around our emotions.

An emotional firewall is a safeguard that guards our hearts.

Honestly, as a restoration/crisis counselor and pastor, most people’s problems are rooted in emotional issues.  Many hurt deeply because they don’t guard their heart. Their feelings are not protected by healthy firewalls.

I believe you and I would be healthier, happier, and more successful in our life if we were more diligent to install, monitor and maintain the following three emotional firewalls.

  1. Firewall against Satan and the world. The devil and his demonic minions are set on destroying our soul (mind, will and emotions). The enemy of our soul attacks our spirits, heads and hearts. He excels at stirring up unhealthy emotions that often lead to poor choices. His lies and falsehoods are a dangerous firestorm fueled by hellfire. Fortify your mind and heart with a lie proof firewall. Know the truth of God. Rebuke and resist the devil. (James 4:7, I Peter 5:8-11). The evil one has no authority over you. Your firewall is the blood of Jesus Christ. Never let Satan in. Like Jesus, boldly, confidently and authoritatively declare, “Satan, get behind me.” He will have to flee every single time!
  2. Firewall against people. If you let them, people can get in your head and heart. How is it that we can let people we don’t know, people who intend to harm us, people who don’t like us people, who shame us berate us, put us down, people who could care less about us affect us emotionally? Screaming at the television is pretty stupid isn’t it?Who you let into your life should be determined by level of relationship. Build strong, impenetrable firewalls between you and emotionally insecure, unstable users and abusers. If you are letting people hurt you, that’s your problem. Keep emotionally unhealthy people far away from your head and heart. Just do it.
  3. Firewall against myself. Too often we are our worst emotional enemy. Charles Swindoll once said “If I could kick in the seat of the pants the person who gives me the most trouble I wouldn’t be able to sit down for a week!” That would be a month for me!

My friends save yourself some grief. Install and maintain a healthy firewall against you! That’s right. Refuse to cave in to self- pity, self-condemnation, shame, guilt, fear, insecurity, victim mentality, beating up on yourself, anxiety, depression, doubt, unbelief etc.

Decide to stop punishing yourself for failure. Focus instead on what the Word of God says about who you are in Christ. Discipline yourself to live on the overcoming side of life emotionally.

There is no valid reason for you and me who profess Christ to not rise up in personal     victory over life in His name!

Keep emotional fires from spreading into your heart by installing biblical firewalls based on God’s Word. Study your Bible. Set spiritual, moral, mental, emotional., relational, physical and financial boundaries according to the truth and principles of the Word.   

Do have emotional firewalls around your heart? Are you being watchful and diligent to keep the fires of hell, the anti-Christ world and hurtful people away from your life? How about personal firewalls? Are you emotionally stable, secure and at peace with who you are in Christ?

Do a check on your emotional firewall today. When is the last time you updated, upgraded your emotional defense system?

Do yourself a big favor and protect your heart.

A Word For Your Week:
Fortify your emotional firewall with faith in Christ and His Word.